Category: Teen Topics
Hello all, I love my high school a lot but how on earth do I make friends? I am in tenth grade now, and in grade eight I started out with no friends and probably got a bad attitude because of it. There is one person who has offered to let me be in their group but I don't want to do it if it could make others in the group unhappy. And then of course, sitting with a group at lunch, how do you ever know when someone is talking to *you*? Etc.. Etc.. Success stories, advice...etc...would be more than welcome.
Ciao for now people!
well, I can't say that I've ever had friends in person. But I'm totally ok with that. I'm gonna be in 11th grade next year and though the occassional person talks to me, I don't really have friends. Maybe if there's a conversation going on, and you feel like you can jump in, go on and do it and see how that goes. Maybe I'm not the best person to be giving advice lol, since I'm totally fine with being ignored.
Hey, Grant,
Don't be afraid to make yourself look like an idiot. That's the best advice I can give you. Making friends, whether you're sighted or blind, takes risk and the willingness to be kinda like, "Hey, you're cool.. let's chill."
Good luck,
CM
Um. Hmm. well, I just randomly spontaniously picked up friends as I went along. But then again, we're an odd bunch. We just dont give three flying craps, don't much care so long's it's fun. I mean, well, like they said in post 3, don't be afraid to look like an idiot. Idiots are funny, and we all like funny people. I mean, just don't walk around being a grouch, and just be yourself. Um, so that wasn't to adviceful, but it's all it really takes.
I agree with all of them.
I'd ignore the groups, and pay more attention to the people who are genuinely interested in you for yourself.
*nods* Yeah. That. Groups tend to be harder to get into, and you tend to get swept up and washed away just as quickly. It's a lot easier to make friends with one or two people and get to know them as people, not as part of a group. I've been with the same mid-popularity group of people for...a long time, and have a ton of acquaintences as well. Just don't be afraid to join in conversations when they're taking place around you. I'm probably not the best person to be giving advice, as I just stick with one group of friends -- I'm a Goth, blind and lumped together with all the semi-cool smart kids -- but I'm just trying to help.
Hey it's cool, you just be yourself and don't worry 'bout whether you accidentally answer when someone isn't talking to you. We do that all the time, blind or sighted or whatever the case may be. I think that you should go ahead and sit with the person who asked you and get to know that person, cause that's how relationships start. I remember that at the beginning of seventh grade I didn't really have a solid group of friends, but then a girl asked me to sit with her at lunch one day and now we're still friends. Furthermore, her asking me to sit with her that day is what started our friendship with each other, and the friendship with so many of my other friends. What I mean is, once you are friends with one person, you'll most likely become friends with their friends, etc.
oh I used to be in with the popular people but then I met a guy named mat and other people didn't like him and I did so all my other friends stopped hanging out with me. except one and the problem was that he liked me and still wanted to hang out with me.now we are all friends and I have another friend who I met in 8th grade and he is on the zone.
I just picked up friends as I went. We just started talking nothing special. I make friends like a sighted person would. Just be yourself don't try to be someone you arn't. As for thinking when someones talking to me I do that all the time. Like I'll hear someone by me say hello? or what's up and find that they are talking on their cell lol. Or here's a good one for ya. In school there were two Troy's in my school and that was hard when someone would say hey Troy I didn't know if they where talking to me or the other one.
Good luck!
Troy
i personally don't have many friends at school, i'm a loner by my choosing. at camps and stuff like that on the other hand, i hang out with a great deal of people. if you can find time to be with people, then you should be able to make friends. if your like me, don't worry about not having any friends, you will most likely work well alone
I was a loner in high school, and didn't really mind that people didn't talk to me. Like several others have said, just be yourself. I've been quiet for as long as I can remember.
alone? *shudder* sorry i am such a people person, just be yourself, once in fifth grade i didnt have that many friends, then this girl came up to me, and we hung out for the rest of the year, and then in my science class there was this girl, and i made her laugh, and then we became best friends... just be yourself, and if people dont accept thet, fuck em, people like humor, and its fine to embarrasss yourself, its not like you're going to marry the person you embarrass yourself in front of, and when you do embarrass yourself just laugh, and make fun of it, everyone likes it when you're confortable with your blindness, make jokes, its not as awkward otherwise...,
Hey, in high school I hung with kind of a rough crowd because I thought that they liked me a lot. Then as time went on I was used. So I went my senior year with no friends sort of. It sucks but hey everyone has there own methods.
i've been there, too, and to be honest, you just have to be yourself, and hope for the best. the time will come, but probably when you least expect it.
Well, I don't have much friends, but since my friends who I have knows that I am blind and addresses me in a proper manner.
"Hey, Rachel."
My name's in the addressing so I know when they are trying to talk to me. Well, otherwise, I don't know they are talking to me or not. Also, one question I ask a lot is
"Who are you?"
People who knows me well enough responds and I thus know.